Open Relationship, Anyone?

It's been a very long time since V and I went to hang-out. And so last Friday we decided to go to Metrowalk to have dinner and a few drinks. Despite the fact that we work together we really rarely get to go out and just talk anymore.

"Usher would probably be the only not-so-goodlooking guy I would f*ck," she said.

"...Because he has a great body, I bet," I added.

"Yuhhhh!"

"I like Will Smith or Denzell Washington more. They have such gorgeous faces and yummy bodies," I said with such vigor.

"Oh yeah, did you know that Will and Jada Pinkett Smith has an open relationship. That's the reason why they lasted all these years."

"Really?! I didn't know that."

"Yeah, in this day and age, relationships can only last if you really keep an open mind about these things."

"Hmmmm, I don't think I am capable of such a thing. I'm still hopeless-romantic to the core."

"I know. That's why you've been single for sooooo long."

It got me thinking if all these are true. It's been so long since I've had a long term relationship and why is it becoming harder and harder to someone who will commit to a serious (and monogamous) relationship.


I once dated a guy who has been in 5 year relationship and it didn't work out for us. I wanted more in the relationship and he cannot give more. I wanted him for myself and he wanted me to share. We decided to be friends because it was just too complicated. Sad ain't it? You find love and love belonged to someone else. I figured the more you look for it, the more elusive it gets.

Why can't I be like one of those people who just finds love and keeps it. Regardless of how difficult it becomes, they remain together. I guess it's harder for gay relationships to work because as they say, "Men are naturally born promiscuous."

Really, what does it take to keep and sustain a meaningful relationship without anyone giving up their principles? Has the age of monogamy really passed? Is it now more practical to keep an open relationship and still be happy?

I've been single for more than a year now and while I am truly happy with the single life, I do miss the perks of being in a relationship.

I miss the first date, the magic in finding someone you would want to live the rest of your life with, the first kiss, the first cuddle, the long and amazing conversations, the birds chirping, the bells ringing, and fireworks. I want to fall in love again.

I know what you're thinking, and I know it'll come. But waiting's a pain and longing is a killer especially since you know people who've sustained their relationships for the longest time. Makes you wonder...

WHERE THE HELL ARE 'YOU' HIDING?!?!